I find myself to be a relatively positive person. I am not
sure why, or how it works, but I consider it a gift. But it wasn’t always that
way. I had friends in high school and college that would say, “Jenilee, you are
too happy. There is no way you are real, or that there is any depth to you.” I
remember crying and praying to God asking for a more serious side so that people
would see me as someone with depth, not as someone faking my personality. Following
those comments, anytime someone would point out how happy I was, I immediately
got insecure. I worried that people thought of me as someone who couldn’t carry
intellectual or deep theological conversations because I was too positive and
happy. And in order to have any good theological conversation you have to be
serious. How silly is that?
Whenever I am around a child, I have a personal goal: to
make them smile or laugh. I think in my mind, how long will it take for me to
make them smile, and what lengths will I have to go to complete this challenge?
Some kids break easy, and they smile, and giggle quickly. Then there are those
who are stone faced, and it takes a lot of funny voices, smiles, flailing of
arms, and if you’re desperate, sometimes it takes jumping around to get them to
smile and laugh. I love seeing kids laugh and smile. It’s like they are wired
to do so. And for so many of us, we love to see kids smile, laugh and to have
fun.
What happened between being a child and now? Why are we not
laughing as much? Why do we not try to have fun? Why are we not engaging other “grown ups”
around us to laugh, or make them smile? Have we succumbed to the idea that
life, as we get older, must become serious?
I keep picturing God having that same personal goal with all
of us. He is trying to make us laugh as if we were a child. He’s smiling at
you, maybe playing peek-a-boo. Maybe at first you don’t notice, because of the
circumstances around you or you are consumed with situations that are
surrounding your life. Maybe you hide your head in shame or embarrassment, like
a kid buries his face into some object to hide, not sure what God would want
with you. But eventually the laughter and the intrigue of fun draws us out from
focusing on our junk, and allows us to focus on our Creator, the one who
created us with the ability to laugh and to have fun. When was the last time
you took time to engage the fun side of God? When was the last time you let God
break through and get a smirk out of you?
The next couple weeks, Heather Zempel, NCC’s Discipleship Pastor,
and I will be blogging about fun. Not just fun in general, but the Theology of
Fun. How does fun relate to God and how does God related to fun is the adventure
that we will embark? We hope you enjoy this journey, because I can tell you
that Heather and I are definitely enjoying it!

Great post, Jenilee,I think you're really on to something! Maybe most people aren't as funny because they are self-conscious or self-absorbed or think being an adult means being serious all the time. They (we) need help! When my brother and I were kids, we hated watching the news, and we sometimes played the "serious game," which meant crossing our arms and wearing a stony frown.
ReplyDeleteAt the ReWrite Conference a couple weeks ago I met Karyn Buxman (KarynBuxman.com) who started the "What's So Funny About...?" brand. She explained to me that laughter is the best medicine, but it doesn't always come naturally. Most of us have to work at it! There is definitely a "market" for what you're selling!
Looking forward to reading the series!
PS, "A lesson taught with humor is a lesson retained."